Poling for Fitness or Poling to Dance?

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Poling for Fitness or Poling to Dance?

As a newbie you’re really excited, nervous, self conscience and in full throttle learning mode.

You watch YouTube videos while you’re in bed, you listen to music and think about how awesome you’re going to look while twirling around the pole and you go out and buy the bootiest booty shorts that you can find… Because you’re going to ROCK that pole.

Your first class you learn just how difficult “twirling” around the pole is. You feel defeated. You’re even more self conscience because your instructor is in booty shorts AND a sports bra, only. But, you feel exhilarated and hopeful and goal orientated! You have your mind on the “fireman” spin, dang it! And you’re going to “get it”.

When you’re learning the basic moves you’re also learning about Arnica gel, ibprophen and your bruises all over your legs (which you are super proud of). You feel like you have a special workout that you’re doing and you are excited to work out! You want to hurry home and get on the pole. Stretching has become your best friend. At least this is how I felt when I first began “Pole Fitness”.

As the months went on and the more moves I learned I started gaining a confidence that I’d never had before. A feeling of having an untold secret, a feeling of sexiness, a feeling of strength. Then I realized that I was no longer doing Pole for “fitness” but instead I was actually Poling to Pole “Dance”.  I love the pole community and I like having a little secret group of friends.

It’s amazing what an exciting journey pole takes you on. What you thought was simple “fitness” fun… Actually turns out to fit comfortably in a special spot in your life. It’s no longer for the workout, it’s for the passion that you feel when you’re doing a trick you never thought you’d be able to do. It’s for the way the dancing part makes you feel inside. Pole dancing is much more than a new workout regime. It’s a part of your life.
I strongly encourage beginners to keep at it. Get creative and put your heart into it.

I’ve only been poling for a year now, but I’ve performed in 4 showcases and 1 competition. I get a thrill trying to learn a new routine. Finding the right song is a process, too. Whatever your journey is with Pole Dancing, I hope you stick to it and love it as much as I do.

Category: Beginners

About Stefanie Decker

Hi! My name is Stefanie Decker and I Pole Dance.

I have always been into fitness. Having taught Pilates for 3+ years, I was in excellent shape. I was seriously injured in a car accident and had to stop working out altogether because I could barely walk, which resulted in low self esteem, depression and overall poor health.

I was invited to a 'Pole Party' a coworker was having. Feeling obligated to go, I did. I'm thankful I did because I've been addicted to Pole ever since. Poling is one of the hardest workouts I've ever done. The cardio in itself is ridiculous. The strength I've gained is immeasurable and the confidence is ever growing.

It's fun, it's challenging, it's different and it's instant.

Pole has changed my life in so many ways. I'm confident in my own skin, I pay more attention to my body, I appreciate myself and I not only feel like I'm AWESOME I know I AM! :)

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9 Comments to “Poling for Fitness or Poling to Dance?”

  1. Natasha says:

    Great article!! Well said, and I love how you described your evolution with pole and how it’s become such an important part of your life 🙂

  2. Ryan says:

    I’m sure alot of beginners go through the same situations you’ve described. Great to see it spelled out and letting them know they’re not alone and serving as an encouragement to keep spinning on that pole.

    • Stefanie says:

      Hi Ryan! Yes, being a beginner is sometimes harder than learning a new move. You just have to keep at it and have fun with it.

      X~ Stefanie

  3. Christy says:

    Wow! I feel like you’ve just literally been sitting inside my head since I first started my own pole journey. You describethe beginners mindset and the emotional and physical changes and the whole transformation beautifully and perfectly. I am still such a newbie!! And sometimes I feel so discouraged and inadequate I want to just quit. But I can’t. Like I’m seriously gonna need a 12 step program if I ever have to stop. I’ve been feeling a little negative about my own pole ability lately because of several things but I haven’t given up hope cometely. i just felt like I had to be the only one who had tried it and felt this way and now this article has renewed my faith and hope and passion for pole!! Thank you Stefanie!! bTW I’m typing in the dark on an iPhone. Please ignore typos 🙂

    • Stefanie says:

      You’re welcome Christy! Everyone has growing pains. It will all come together for you. Keep practicing and keep that passion!
      x~ Stefanie

  4. Kelsie says:

    I couldn’t have worded it better! i watched so many youtube videos and pictured myself looking amazing wrapped around a pole and after the first lesson I thought my body had given up on itself! For a week after I couldn’t move, my own mother had to dress me lol! But I decided I’d carry on and go through the pain… I kept telling myself the more you practise the easier it becomes, and now I’m halfway through level 4! I find it’s half practising and half mental block..those moves I found so hard the level before seem to just come to me the first lesson of the next level because I’m not worrying about getting it right and thinking I can’t do it. You just have to believe in yourself that you won’t fall, and you are in fact strong enough for that move! I can honestly say I’m addicted to pole dancing, even if some weeks before the lesson I’m thinking ‘oh no, I’m so tired, I don’t think I can do this today’ I will always come out of the lessons with some new found boost and a lot of energy! All i can say to anyone who questions me about pole dancing is that you need to stick at it!

  5. kim says:

    ive been doing pole since the start of the year… next week i officially start intermediate 2. This article is exactly how i felt when i started as a beginner.
    My confidence how grown soo much and im happy to say i love pole and its more then just exercise … its a lifestyle.
    When im not doing pole , im thinking of it and youtubing it.
    When i first started it was hard and i didnt think i would be able to do it but you have to keep pushing yourself. Every move that you finally get the hang of makes it all worth while.
    I have met so many beautiful girls through pole and through all the pain and bruises im glad i found pole.
    pole dancing is all in the mind… positive thoughts and not giving up.
    Everyone should atleast try pole dancing…i wish i started years ago im 26 next year and i feel great . pole dancing has changed my life.

  6. Stefanie says:

    I have come back to visit this article again. I wrote it. After a few years of medical issues and other persona issues, I have finally been able to sit down at my actual personal computer look into the things that I used to enjoy looking into… “POLE”! I haven’t been on my pole(s) since last August. I was able to throw together a short little showcase performance that my studio was having at a local venue. It was both exciting and sad all at the same time for me. I wasn’t able to “ROCK” it like I used to, but I was extremely proud of myself for taking the stage and trying to do something.
    Writing is one of my great enjoyments in life and writing about the pole dancing that I loved doing was another wonderful outlet for me. It was really nice to be able to come back to this little article and read what I wrote and also to read the replies of others. I think I have been inspired from the readers who I was trying to inspire at the time.

    How cool is that?!

    ~ Stefanie

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