A few weeks ago I was writing to someone who had commented on a PoleFreaks article – her point of view was that people perhaps get jealous of her as she progressed quickly, inverting after only her second lesson.
I started to think about pole jealousy and whether it exists.
I know I’ve had my own share of comments I’d rather not receive about how someone else can do it easier, stronger, better or cleaner. I’ve never considered this to be pole jealousy, but rather people furthering their own pole journey.
Are We Jealous?
I know I’m jealous of so many polers. So many people can do such incredible things that I can’t do, and I wish I could do them. Everytime I see moves I can’t do, it makes me train harder. I guess in this way, my jealousy comes out in a very creative, positive way.
I can understand how jealously gets the better of people. We see things we have been working on for weeks or longer, to have someone show us that they can do it with ease on their first try. It’s difficult and frustrating when we can’t do moves and others can.
In class there is so much positivity all around and everyone encourages each other. Once in a blue moon, someone will really struggle. I’ll hear people say that they aren’t as good as the other people in the room. I know that feeling all too well, but I’ve learnt not to pay attention to it any more.
Your pole journey is your own and only positivity will help you get further. It can be difficult watching others and seeing how easy it looks for them. But perhaps they pole at home or workout in the gym, do maybe do hoop or silks to get them stronger. What you don’t realise is that they are probably looking at you during certain moves wishing they could do it as well as you can.
Can You Stop It?
Well no, probably not. Jealously is natural – we always want to be able to do things bigger and better than before. But perhaps you can channel any jealousy into a positive. There’s no need to make other people feel bad. Any one of us could comment on any amazing pole pic or video saying that we could do it better. Whether true or not, there’s no need to put others down to make ourselves feel better.
Use jealousy as a way of keeping you on your pole journey. Keep trying harder moves and keep progressing. We want to see what moves you can do, and keep supporting you. Lots of pole love 😀