So recently the old yawn worthy debate of stripper vs non-stripper has come up time and time again on my newsfeed.
The reason I say ‘yawn worthy’ is not to disrespect anyone’s opinion in said debates, but for me to say my piece and just get over it.
I’m so bored of this pointless aggression. We don’t need it. As a pole community we face so many issues from the outside non-pole world that we shouldn’t be turning on each other.
Saying Your Piece
It’s important to remember that unless you’re talking face to face with someone, it’s so easy to get the wrong end of the stick – especially if you’re looking for it.
I know if I read an article about pole within the non-poling community, if I scroll down I will see some comments that indirectly call me and what I do all kinds of names. I don’t need it from anyone outside of our community and I certainly don’t need it from anyone within it.
So why bother looking and getting into an argument that no-one can win?
If I go looking for someone calling me something I find distasteful who cares?! I’m not going to waste one more second on these trolls. All they want is to provoke you and get a reaction. I know I don’t have that kind of time.
The problem we often have is when those comments turn to the old ‘I’m not a stripper, what I do is fitness’ ones… and the whole stripper vs non-stripper debate explodes…again.
Please Just Stop It!
Who cares what someone does for a living?
I don’t care what anyone else does with their life as long as they don’t hurt anyone else.
I have no business judging anyone – especially for something that doesn’t need to be judged. I get judged for teaching pole and who cares?
I’m making my money how I like and paying my bills.
Back in the day when I was shaking my ass on a bar and throwing champagne all over the place I was definitely judged! (Think Coyote Ugly!) I was called names and shamed by the people who came in and yes, had glasses thrown at me… more than once (If only they poled they may have been able to throw a little harder 😉 )
But you know what? That was such a fun job. I literally could do anything I wanted. I was told to swear and shout at customers if they were being rude. I put my pole up on a table and swung around from the pipes on the ceiling (which I later found out were not at-all well secured!)
There were people online who were saying we were (enter derogatory name here) and couldn’t dance, had no life… blah blah blah.
Did I let it get me down? Hell no. I was having the time of my life.
So I’ve had it from both ends. The fitness aspect has been judged and my evening poling has been judged. I understand why (perhaps ignorant) people judge pole who don’t know any better, and refuse to try it judge us. I think it’s silly, but I get it – and that’s why their opinion means nothing.
But everyone is entitled to their opinion.
What I don’t get is the divide in our community that we just don’t need. No one is going to throw either the fitness or the stripper part of pole at you, unless you want it. So live and let live. Poling is hard and we need all the support we can get.
No judgement please – we are all awesome polers 😀