Where It All Began

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Where It All Began

I started pole dancing in November of 2012, but the story begins a little earlier with a YouTube video and a girl.

Now, before you get the wrong idea—or perhaps slightly after you get the wrong idea but before it settles in—that girl, Darci, is my best friend and a pole dance instructor in northern Minnesota. We’d been talking about pole and dance and sharing videos we found online for a long time. Back in college where we met, we used to take swing dance lessons together, she roped me into ballet, we dabbled in tap, did yoga and pilates, and now she was trying to talk me into giving pole a shot. I had a lot of excuses.

As a full-time electrician and a full-time single dad, I didn’t have time. There weren’t any studios near me, and none of them were open to guys anyways. And to be honest, after a few years of focusing on my son and career to the exclusion of almost everything else, the thought of trying something new while meeting new people was a little intimidating. I was scared. I liked my shell. It was comfy in there…

Thankfully, that wasn’t good enough for Darci. She found a studio about an hour away from me that had a couple classes open to guys, and for her next trip down to visit, signed us up for a lesson at a time she knew would work for me thereby grinding all my excuses to dust.

Okay. I’d Try.

I loved it! It was a fantastic workout and just plain fun. It was great enough that I didn’t even mind having to tell Darci she was right and I was wrong! Well, I didn’t mind much…

At about the same time, more and more videos of guys pole dancing were beginning to surface online. At first, I was really frustrated. It seemed all the videos were of guys dressed in hot pants, and while they were impressive and technically amazing, stylistically it didn’t appeal to me.

Then one day as I was surfing YouTube, I stumbled upon a video entitled “Vertical Tango”. I watched it. I watched it again. I watched it some more. The energy, the playfulness, the strength and control and grace. Now, I was officially hooked. I couldn’t watch that video and not think, “I’m going to do that.”

There have definitely been some challenges and frustrations along the path. Finding time is tough. Finding pole clothes for men is tougher. Finding out that if I shave my inner thighs, my pole sits and crucifixes get a lot stronger and a lot less painful, which is great!

Finding a studio that works with my schedule hasn’t happened, but I have a pole in my apartment and more days than not I cram a little pole practice in between work and picking up my son. But I don’t pole entirely alone. As often as we can, Darci and I get together over Skype, or even better in person to really push ourselves.

I love the workout. I love the dance. I love the way I look, but more importantly, I love the way I feel. I feel strong. I feel healthy. I feel alive.

Category: Body Image

About Kenn Macur

My name is Kenn. I’m 34 years old, a dad, an electrician, a writer, a photographer, an artist, an adventurer, a hiker, a camper, a soccer player (football for those of you anywhere else in the world), a natural history, physics, and psychology enthusiast. In short, I’m a geek, I’m a dork, I’m a nerd, and, now, I’m a pole dancer too! I love it! If you’re looking for me, best look up. I’m probably hanging upside down from something, thumbing my nose at gravity.

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6 Comments to “Where It All Began”

  1. Natalie says:

    Only one word to say: GREAT!

  2. Shelby Blom says:

    Love the post!!

  3. Fiona Denney says:

    Great article, good to read an article from a man’s perspective. I started poling 3 years ago when I was 46 and people either thought I was crazy or that I was going through a mid life crisis and wanted to be a stripper!! a few people thought it was a cool thing to do Until you have tried pole and fallen in love with it you just can’t understand how obsessed us polers are!!

  4. annie says:

    I LOVE this. It’s generally uncomfortable for women to say that they pole dance. I can imagine how it could be even more uncomfortable for men. I’m glad that there’s finally a male poler speaking out! 🙂

  5. yolan moison says:

    wow you are great!

  6. Male Pole says:

    Kenn, wait, back up a moment here, were you serious about shaving your thighs?

    I more or less resigned myself to just moving the pole further out to my knees on sits.
    It messes up my center of gravity something awful, but at least it’s a sit.

    As a guy struggling with with his own pole sits, I’m willing to try anything at this point.

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