The Need To “Push Past”

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The Need To “Push Past”

Have you ever noticed that when you get really stressed or depressed you either pole more or you don’t? There’s no in between.

Recently I have had a tremendous amount of stress, sadness and depression lingering in my life. At first, I thought that pole would make me feel better, but it turns out it made me more sad. How strange is that? I didn’t want to put my pole up, I didn’t want to go to classes, I didn’t even want to talk about pole – which is the exact opposite of what I usually am like. I usually LOVE pole.

So, after having a literal, nervous breakdown, getting on medication and finding a good therapist…. I took a little trip to Ohio for The Arnold Classic – a fitness expo of sorts.

As I watched people who were either competing or spectating I began to “feel” a little how I used to feel… I understood their passion for their chosen sport and it reminded me of how I would feel going to my classes.

Something Unexpected Happened…

I walked down the stairs to the weight lifting part of the expo (something I have no interest in) trying to kill time. As I was coming down the stairs I heard the announcer say “and that concludes our pole dancing competition”. WHAT?!? There was pole where I was and I had no idea. I was so bummed out that I missed that event. Then I realized something… I got excited about pole again. I needed to remind myself that even though I haven’t been on a pole in over a month, I have passion for it.

I know that this is supposed to be something “cool” about POLE, but I wanted to take a moment to remind us all that no matter where you are at in your life, no matter how sad or stressed you are about something…. Keep doing what you love doing. Even if you haven’t poled in a week, month or a year… If it makes you happy and ever has made you happy… Reach deep inside yourself and make sure you keep doing it. Alethea Austin says “Push Past” and it’s really true. You NEED to push yourself in every aspect of your life.

This is really a reminder to myself to “Push Past” and keep going. Get on that pole, because that’s what I LOVE doing, and take care of what I can.

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About Stefanie Decker

Hi! My name is Stefanie Decker and I Pole Dance.

I have always been into fitness. Having taught Pilates for 3+ years, I was in excellent shape. I was seriously injured in a car accident and had to stop working out altogether because I could barely walk, which resulted in low self esteem, depression and overall poor health.

I was invited to a 'Pole Party' a coworker was having. Feeling obligated to go, I did. I'm thankful I did because I've been addicted to Pole ever since. Poling is one of the hardest workouts I've ever done. The cardio in itself is ridiculous. The strength I've gained is immeasurable and the confidence is ever growing.

It's fun, it's challenging, it's different and it's instant.

Pole has changed my life in so many ways. I'm confident in my own skin, I pay more attention to my body, I appreciate myself and I not only feel like I'm AWESOME I know I AM! :)

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3 Comments to “The Need To “Push Past””

  1. Rachel says:

    I completely identify with you. I am stressed & depressed at times. Go back & forth & argue with myself. I may not pole for several days to several weeks at a time, but I always go back to it because it’s what I love to do. Glad I’m not the only one. Thank you for the great article.

    • Stefanie says:

      Rachel- it’s always good to know that other people go through the same thing. At times it seems like you’re all alone, but really… We are not.
      This post couldn’t have come soon enough from me.
      Thank you for your comment, it has helped me.

  2. Stefanie says:

    DL Sparks- I am so happy you’re not selling your pole. Imagine a life without her and how boring it would be. Having the pole, at least, reminds you that you still have the option.
    🙂 Super glad I could help.

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